This blog isn't just about me. It's about you too.
I am really here to help you gain more understanding in your life. To do this, I need your help.
I have a very important question I need to ask you... and please answer honestly.
Please leave me a comment below and answer the following question.
What is your greatest source of pain is in your life? Where do you feel stuck?
Is it your health? Wealth? Relationships?
What question that if you felt was answered would solve all your problems?
I am going to use your feedback to create programs that are specifically catered to your needs because I want to help you as much as possible.
Sean
Hi Sean, My mom is on vacation at my house and I introduced her to you and she watched many of your videos. She couldn't get enough of you. You are an absolute doll and look forward to all of your emails. Have a wonderful day and thank you for all that you do. Love, Betina & mom
hi sean,
i have been born like you with an unusual state. my arms are very short and i have no real hands just some fingers. perhaps you have heard of thalidomide, a drug my mother got when she was pregnant. in general i handeld this difficult situation quite well, although my parents could not support me as well as yours as they had no selfconfidence themselves. especially in my studies and work i was successful. but already when i was young i felt so totally worthless as a man. i had a lot of women as good friends but they were never attracted to me. when i was older i had some experiences with prostitutes but felt very uncomfortable with that. before i became 40 i found via a dating agency a lady who was ready to engage in a relation with me, but it turned out soon that she was only intersted in my money. i was earning quite good at that time. and the same situation happened again. this time i was even married for 2 years and the divorce costed me a lot of money. so i gave up all my hopes that i will ever be able to really attract a woman as i am nearly 50 in the meantime.
but it makes me very sad that i have never experienced in my life a succesful relation with a woman and that i was not attractive enough as a man.
Dear Sean,
First I want to thank you for your video blogs. You are so sweet and sincere. I love you.
Now to tell you my greatest source of pain is being in an unhappy marriage for more than 2 decades. I stayed in the marriage for the sake of my children. I would love to leave but am not able to do so because I can not find a job. To sell our home would be at a huge loss because the market bottomed out. We bought at nearly the peak. Also, I suffer from chronic fatigue syndrome. As I type this I am in great physical pain. There is more, but let's start with just that.
Again, thank you for your blog. You are a sweetheart!!!!
Most ofmy pain at this point is that I cannot get myself moving on any of the goals or ideas I have. I am well equipped and fairly clear on 2 of my main goals, but just do not take the first step. One is that I do not have a structured, consistant spiritual discipline. I won't even sit & meditate for any amout of time. I listen and read, but don't do.
I have a project that is always present in my heart and I know could be of great benefit to our small community and to myself also. I know what steps I need to take to get started, but not so much as one thing have I done except mention it to a couple of people.
What is going on?
I have been in a real struggle with depression and in my marriage, especially over the last 18 months. My husband & I have been able to start to make some progress lately.
I feel like I am chasing my tail and I know it but cannot seem to straighten my course and head for any goal. I feel like I have no real purpose or direction. I have always had something I was working toward and have reached many of those goals. Why do I feel so lost and aimless?
Thanks for a sounding board.
Joan
Thank you Sean.
That is all I needed today. I am pleased with how you are using this tool to change the world.
Best wishes, and if you get stuck, the answer is 42
Hello Sean,
I've been watching your videos this afternoon. You are a joy to watch and absorb information from!
My greatest pain is my relationships with my parents, which seems to infect everything else. And I'm sure saps my already low self-esteem ... which makes many aspects of my life an unpleasant struggle - I struggle to feel happy, satisfied, fulfilled in love, livelihood, and leisure.
My relationships with my parents... I have major frustrations with my mother who refuses to deal with anything on any emotional level, especially me, and for some reason I keep trying to get her to. My father is cool and also not comfortable with expressing or hearing feelings. I don' t FEEL they love me. Everyone seems to like them and I feel like a horrible child for thinking that. I BELIEVE they love me, at least who they think I am. Yet when I attempt to share with them who I am becoming and discovering myself to be, I get the feeling that they are trying to get me to be the "old" me. And I feel too needy of their validation to just be the me I want to be and let the chips fall where they may. They are nice people, but aren't comfortable in the feeling side of relationships. (Several of their friends have expressed to me that they don't really feel they know my parents! Makes me feel less crazy.) I suspect that I am somehow trying to get them to make up for validation they didn't give me as a child.
Somewhere inside I must believe that I don't deserve to be loved deeply, because I am not... or don't allow myself to feel it. I am in a relationship that has lost its passion. To be honest, I wasn't in love to begin with, even though I was very much "in like" - probably felt it was the best I deserved. To be fair, we are very good friends other than the passionless aspect, so I feel grateful for that. And I am in no financial condition to leave now. So, I have sort of doomed myself (and my partner) to a sexless existence for now. I am sort of okay with that for me because I know that I need to heal myself before going out to look for another partner or I'll just end up in a similar situation. And my partner knows this and seems love me enough to support me for a while. But is not interested in putting energies into "relationship improvement".
My work livelihood are is not doing too well either. I have doing sporadic odd jobs when they come, but don't get out and look for something I love to do that pays well. I am sure that no one would want to pay me to do what I love doing... and I am not even sure what that is! I do enjoy creating and designing things, abstract thought, movement, color, shape, cultural travel (which I haven't been able to do in far too long!), learning.
I do have a number of good friends, many of whom I have been out of touch with because 1) I feel bad bringing my sadness to them, 2) because it's hard to admit the reality of my relationship, 3) the energy I would use to reach out and reconnect is being used in other less rewarding areas (like parents, less than satisfying relationship, and money woes!).
I have studied a lot of psychology and experienced a lot of emotional healing techniques. They all seem to help - I think I am better off than I've ever been, and yet, I see how far I am from where I want to be. Intellectually and objectively, I think I can be of service in the emotional healing realm, yet that little voice keeps saying "who do you think you are to think you could help ANYone else?" And in my other endeavors (creative, technical), I am always sure that no one will value what I do enough to pay me.
Okay... I think that's the bulk of it as succinctly as possible.
Thanks for the desire to know and the opportunity to express.
Blessings...
(PS. I watched a the series of videos on "Making Love, not War", on FinerMinds but can't seem to find the last one(s). You were just getting to the "biggest killer of attraction" and the "number 1 builder of attraction" for both men and women. Thank you for all the information prior to that - very interesting and informative! Helped me understand my relationship. I love what you said about doing only things that come from a feeling of abundance.... beautiful!)
PS. I found the link to the rest of the videos...
Hi Raji,
Could you tell us the link for the rest of the vidoes.. I want to see. Thanks for sharing.
My biggest source of pain is that I am not apt at loving unconditionally, foregiving, letting go of whatever should be, and doing good deeds.
Analysing life, lack in those elements is probably what caused all of my long-term maladies.
I think most pain comes from bad actions, well thats where most of my pain comes from, Mistakes that seem so hard to fix or tell someone, or a lost love that seems so hard to talk too. Not knowing is pain, not knowing what to do is pain. But in the end all pain ends if you let it and work hard at being healthy, but at times that's my pain.
But anyone who reads this, keep the faith. And know that your in my prayers and i wish you the best. And Sean, thank's for asking. I wish you all the best
Hi Sean, I think you are such a blessing!!! I would be priviliged ,honored if I could meet you someday...who knows? At any rate I need to know,first, if my name and/or e-mail is going to be on this site...made public. I must know this, because I will??? be writing to you here about a concern w/ my daughter and how she is raisingher children. I am very private person and I know you don't answer e-mails individually.I just need someone to talk to. I have no one to talk to me about this and it's tearing me apart. I trust you,I just don't want this all "out there". I pray to somehow, someway to hear from you. Thank you,M. Could you please not show my name and address on here?
Thank you Sean for asking such a great question it feels great just to know someone cares and and wants to listen and even try and help.
Health wise i think i am doing good need to gain some weight now but not my main source of serious pain.
Its kind of hard to say which is my main source of pain when it comes to relationship or financial
My financial situation is very bad i live in a small ugly dirty flat with 2 other family members in a very crime infested area. i am very much into making money online but cant seem to make none of it work really need a mentor to guide me online so i can make some decent money iam not looking to be rich i would like to start by making £200 online per month then hopefully take it all the way up to something like £6.000 but an extra £200 per month would already make a HUGE difference for me i just wish some of these big internet gurus would care to help a little guy that really needs help and would be glad to repay.
My other problem is relationships i find it hard to attract women but i think that its mainly down to my confidence most women have said i am a good looking guy and a good catch unfortunatetly i am shy but again i think thats down to confidense and been told iam to much of a nice guy and have a baby face which doesnt help either oh and a little bit in the short side.
I had been going out with a fantastic kind hearthed good looking lady for just over 3 years about 3 months ego she left me and i feel very depressed lonely and heart broken i have no friends to talk to or help me out. I think my lack of confidence cames from feeling like i have nothing to offer anyone because i have no money so i am not a stable person or a fun person to be around. Women or potential friends just arent interested in hanging or being in a relationship with someone who doesnt really have anything to offer.
I would really like to get advise on making money online i am just so sick of living in this small horrible flat and help with relationships would also be great
I really appreciate you asking this important question...
The source of my pain is financial. My husband doesn't work due to a severe back injury that was sustained 18 years ago, he also doesn't receive any disability...what I make supports our home.
I am blessed to have an amazing job that allows me to work from home to be here with him and keep us financially solvent, barely...
I would love to find a way to make some additional income to allow us to get ahead. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to be rich (ok, maybe I do, but it's most likely not going to happen ; )), but I would like to be comfortable and not have to worry about paying my bills each month (or not paying them).
Any insight you can give would be so greatly appreciated...and thanks again...
I suffer from the midas touch syndrome.
What a beautiful question to ask people. What an incredible walk and dance you've come to make on this earth. My deepest hat's off, and thank you for the courage you brought me today with your story and mischievous stubbornness.
My own pain is not yet seeing the key that I'm not turning yet in whatever I've been doing, all levels of life. In not having given as I was given to give, despite deep attention and work to serve the instruments given to me in this life time. There is often a last hiccough just as I breathe and go full into movement.
Yes, I know a fair amount of the scenarios that comes from from the first years. Am working on melting, but have seen so much talent, these profound gifts go to waste, and that melts down most joy, most right to live even in my own bones right out of me. I struggle in cold to walk, not sure I have a right to even. I'll always give of my best, look for more, but such extraordinary gifts (in this case as singer, among other things) were given to GIVE. Why give them to me and then destroy my being able to serve them.(despite my work from earliest age on my stuff, created accidents, betrayals, or silly but self-damaging stuff, enough to destroy all worked so hrd and happily also to develop) Better to have given this voice to another then who healed with it.
Every dream I have dreamed for simple happiness or deep needs to see healed in giving of what I have have been destroyed systematically, whether project, career, finances, children..at the last hiccough, just before..And haven't in 30 years, despite deep working, loving the truth --it IS the only thing interesting there is and has never hurt me--dishonesty hurts, truth never--caught the key, surely right in front of my face, to turn myself and move freely at last.
Any thoughts you would have, if you have the time, that come to your own intuition would be much appreciated.
Again, thank you for your beautiful question to us all,
and best of courage "all through the night" as the beautiful Welsh song goes, to yourself.
hi
i feel like i have written this before to you,or maybe i think a bout it too much.. i have discovered that i don't believe i am lovable.i have been working on this since july09 this year.this is my shadow. i am practing concious suffering to the best of my ability to disolve my ego.(my love life is a disaster)it permeates everything.thanks for all your inspiration.
best,
c
my source of pain???..................
i firmly believe,...that no matter what i want,...
all i have to do is want it,vision it,and truely
believe that it will be mine.
but i seem to always have such negative doubts
with everything thats happening in the world right now,...economy,war,climate change,....
i could go on forever,.....
how do i rid my mind of all these negative thoughts that are keeping me down and allowing me to achieve true happiness???????
how can i achieve wealth? with wealth i would seek and find health and good relationships
sweetheart, you'll create good relationships probably when you see that it is not wealth that will make it, but your heart, and your honesty. Ditto health. The wealth is already there, and the money is for fun and kindness...
my biggest source of pain is relationship. i don't feel connected with people, don't know the purpose of my life... don't know what to believe
Hello Sean!
I feel that I am Really batteling with moving forward with my life. My Husband says that I live in the Past everyday of my life and I hate that he said that, but he is right. I gave up my independence for my children because I always wished that my mom was home after I came home from school and she wasn't, she had to work. Now 15 years later my girls are old enough to fend for themselves to a point and I am having a hard time finding myself, finding out what I would like to do with my time. I have done things I like in small doses in the past but never followed through with anything and my husband feels dissapointed. I feel like I'm letting him down. I am experiencing sadness and I don't know why. I know that I don't like myself very much. My husband and I don't have an intimate life because of me. I don't feel good about Me. I could go on and on, but I hope you see the picture that I'm painting for you.
I look forward to hearing from you when you get the time.
Kind Regards
Tina
South Africa
Hi Sean! Thank you!
To your question;'If I put together a program on how to let go of past pain in
relationships so you can enter healthy relationships would
you be interested in that?'
My answer; YES...please
My pain is entirely base on that point.
Look, may be i am really bad lucky or really stupid (or a mix of the 2), but over the last 10 years i really invested myself in 2 women, each time based on what i thought was love and attraction, friendship, respect, commitment,... and with the 2 of them it end up in a mix of lies, abuse of trust or kind of manipulation.
So now, it is almost impossible for me to trust anyone. Because of those past shitty and 'hurtful' experiences I became like a medieval fortress full of walls, trenches and guards... Impenetrable!
I know i have to unlock something inside, i just dont know how! And i am afraid that if i dont find a way to solve this i am doom... i will stay alone the rest of my life.
Thank
Patrick
Hi just wanted to say patrick i can really relate to you.
I have always had a hard time with finding a relationship due to lots of bullying so i became very antisocial and to make things worse my wealth which is basically zero doesnt help because if i do get social i dont have the income to meet up with friends.
Somehow all this makes me feel that iam not worth anything and that i have nothing to offer about 3 months ego i had a beatiaful woman in my life and now she is gone i loved her so much and yet cant stop loving her. Anytime i try to meet a new woman i feel sick to the stomach and scared the same pain is just going to happend again and again i dont feel like i am lovable sometimes.
Hey Sean,
I have had several unsuccessful relationships so I opted to forgo them for many years. I recently got involved with a really great conscious man. I have some troubles with projecting my crap onto him, with being too attached to the relationship and allowing it to have too much of an effect on me. Also I tell myself too many negative stories. I get anxious if I don't hear from him or if he does something that makes me think he's not committed to the relationship. I have no reason to be insecure, I am attractive, intelligent and have had success in my life and my guy hasn't done anything that would warrant me to believe that he is going anywhere. I understand that a lot of this is from my inner child, false beliefs etc. I just want to find the answers to resolving these destructive behaviors and move into a truly loving and healthy relationship.
Trina
If I put together a program on how to let go of past pain in
relationships so you can enter healthy relationships would
you be interested in that?
Also, I'll make sure to do a segment of a blog on that.
- Sean
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.... Where is it??? Where is the answer... I'm desperate. I don't want to lose the love of my life. I know he loves me and I don't want to hurt him anymore. Please...
Sean, Thank you for your interest in helping others. My greatest source of pain is my resistance to the change that is required in my life. I find myself at times almost immobilized by my sense of loss, and even though I have always been a very positive person, this pain is extremely deep. My loss has impacted every aspect of my life, career, spouse, and home - even my sense of purpose. So, I am in the process of transforming.
Try this on for size. You can't lose anything BECAUSE it's all on loan from the start.
Only your ego wants you to believe that stuff/people can be yours, they are not.
We must live with no attachments, as they only cause suffering. Everything in your
life is passing through, some might stick around, but it's all headed somewhere.
Peace,
Sean
Wow never thought about it that way that actually sounds scary but yet its very true and makes perfect sense
I can't find my soul; my heart has disappeared and won't resurface; the dreams and wonderment I seem to once have are now an illusion; nothing I do, think, plan, or try to feel lives more than a fleeting moment.
WHAT DO YOU FEEL SEAN? IT'S REAL!
It's NOT real...it only feels real. I do not put down your feelings in the
slightest, I just ask that you separate your fears from your thoughts!
Follow my lessons closely on this blog, you'll see your soul isn't lost,
it's just hiding. Let's work to have it feel safe enough to come out
and play.
Stay tuned,
Sean
Sean, my pain lies in the relationship aspect of my Life. After being married for 24 years my beautiful wife informed me that I no longer met her emotional needs and had to leave, so I did . I have been divorced for 2 years now I had one Girlfriend who moved in with me but she too felt I was not good enough. Leave it to say I fell into a deep depressive state. I have met other girls they say they really like me but I'm to nice like its bad to be a nice person. I have been holding on to one for 3yrs. now but she is married although she tells me to wait for her daughter to graduate high school and then we can be together I love this girl with all my heart and soul, but now she is in really bad financial difficulty due to job loss and not being prudent. As am I and she is backing off out of fear of that situation. I am Lost man. Help!!!
Bill get yourself together man.
Seriously, I am picking up some lonely/needy vibes and I say
that not as a put down, rather a pick up. You need to find your
purpose and stop focusing on women. You must attract an
awesome reason to be alive and then the right women without
heavy baggage will be knocking at your door.
Get to cause my friend!
Sean
Bill i cant even begin to imagine the pain you must of been in i was with my girl for 3 years and 3 months which is alot less then you i have now been separated from her for about 3 months and still cry over her.
The last time we talked she also said there was certain psychical aspects about me that lost her interest she wanted me to gain weigh look more muscular and even said the what i wear is boring to her. This is now became a big blow to my confidence. And atm i am in the depresed stage you mention i cant seem to get over her. Also i agree with with what Sean says there is a needy vibe there that might be the root to your problem
Self confidence and motivation!
I want to do stuff and can do it, but I always think I'll never succeed so I just give up.
I've had a lifetime of depression and anxiety. However, on this I can truly see some light at the end the tunnel. I am reclaiming my life but have forgotten my self worth.
Thanks for listening!
If you get your body in top shape depression and anxiety will diminish.
Careful what you believe about success, and the lack there of.
Peace,
Sean
That was perfect advice Sean and I took it. By the time I turned 40 just before Christmas I was looking good and feelin positive. Now it's nearly March and I'm back sitting in the kitchen eating cake!
I couldn't sustain the good but hard work in order to keep the feelings going.
I've decided to crash and burn in the hope that I can be re-born from the ashes.
Mags
PS. Our WLW list is the same. lol
I am a single woman, never married and turned fifty a few months ago.
I lost my home in January after filing bankruptcy. In 1990 I bought a cottage on Lake Lani er with a detached garage and mother in law suite. In 2001 I resigned from my job to start my own business. I felt like I had enough in my savings, plus I had income from my rental. Life was great.
I have always believed that people are basically good. I have always tried to help people when I could-but now I feel like I must have "sucker" written across my forehead.
A few years ago I let a friend stay in my rental. She was going through a nasty divorce after being with an abusive husband for 25 years. She wasn't able to pay rent until the divorce was settled. Unfortunately, she didn't get what she expected from the courts and went through a severe depression and tried to kill herself. She also ended up having to have surgery because the arteries in her neck were over 90% blocked. She had no health insurance, no income. I told her not to worry-she always had a place to stay-things would get better.
Her life didn't get better and I couldn't/wouldn't ask her to move. Where would she go?
My business was doing fine but without the expected rental income, I had to refinance. In hindsight, I realize that was a big mistake. I thought if worse comes to worse I could sell my home.
My home appraised for $450,000 in 2007 . I owed $300,000 after refinancing. Even though the economy was bad I didn't think I'd have trouble selling. Unfortunately , the cove I lived on dried up because we've had a drought for the last seven years and the lake was over 20 foot below full pool.
In 2008 my home appraised at only $300,000. I was so miserable because I have always worked hard all my life and I try to do the right thing. I almost gave up.
I had started reading a book over a year ago called "A New Earth". I'm not a religious person, but I am spiritual and reading this book has certainly helped me view things differently. I quit trying to hold on to my home, believing when one door closes-another one opens, what I am perceiving as a bad thing might be a good thing.
When I started looking at life differently, trying not to worry about what the future holds and living more in the present I began feeling better.
After filing bankruptcy in January of this year I moved out of my home with my two dogs and two cats. I could have stayed in my home until I was forcefully evicted, but my pride wouldn't allow it and I was now on what I call my "unintentional Journey". I didn't know where I was going, but I was kind of excited to see where my journey would take me.
When I left, I let a single mother and her two kids stay in my home. The mother was being evicted and had no where to go. I told her even though the courts now owned my home she could stay there if she didn't mind waiting for a knock on the door from the sheriff. I didn't ask anything of her- just pay the utility bills. I left them in my name because she couldn't afford the deposit.
Near the end of April I got a call from a former neighbor. He told me someone was removing the windows from my home. The mother and her two kids were gone. So were all my appliances and wood burning stove. The house was completely gutted. The cabinets, counter tops, kitchen sink, toilets, etc. On top of this she left me with three months of utility bills.
I feel like such a fool.
My life since I started my "unintentional journey" has been difficult-I didn't expect it to be easy. I keep trying to live in the present and not worry about the past or future. I am thankful that I am healthy and I have been able to find work here and there.
I just feel so alone.
Hey there Sean,
I am, happy to say, living my bucket list.
A while ago, depressed and totally depleted, I came to a point I'd call "Fish or cut bait". I decided that life was just way too short to be unhappy (at times suicidally so) and that it was high time I asked (and found answers for) the questions: "What is it all about?" and "What am I doing here?"... This all came down to one: "Who am I REALLY?".
I gave up the job I hated, dropped the belief that you need to do what you hate in order to survive. The biggest one I ditched, was that existing is enough. I wanted to Live instead. I binned my watch and my cell phone and have spent the last 3 years traveling the globe - mostly I've been in and out of India - seeking the answers to that root question. Health, Wealth and Happiness have taken on different meanings to me. I am not chasing those anymore.
I have been through enough to write many books about, but I won't go into that.
I suspect that my burning question, my 'pain', is not one you or anyone else can answer (thanks by the way for your clip on 'Guru's, which I totally agree with).
My question can only be answered by experiencing THAT itself, by myself. If you know what I mean? I know who I AM.
Probably sounds like absolute madness to 99% of the people out there - Those who are wanting a new job or a happy relationship or debt free existence. Instead of wanting those things, I have asked myself how important those things actually are. Will they bring me happiness or will I just move on to wanting the next relationship, house etc??
I can't say I am much interested in those things at all to be honest. I have risked everything I have to be free, to in the moment and to go deep within finding that experience, while enjoying my 'bucket list' in a few extraordinary locations on the globe.
I am writing this to you from a hostel in Kuala Lumpur at the moment and I'll be heading for some serious jungles, head hunting tribes and super massive caves in Borneo. I plan to summit Mount Kinabalu at sunrise and see if that brings me any closer to 'curing the pain'. I may even let you know if it does.
Take care and thanks for your blog.
H
PS. I also got to see the Dalai Lama at his home in Darmasala 2 years ago - I was teaching Tibetan Monks English there for a while. A GREAT experience which made me forget my burning question for a while. They say he is the embodiment of compassion, but I suspect it is instead Peace.
lovely story. thank you. Keep dancing, gorgeous.
What you describe is very similar to what I have experienced... I roamed Africa and India for years searching for answers....
But then one day I realized that the only place I could find the real answer was inside myself... that I could travel whole my life and not find the answer... So I returned home. Now I am living the "everyday" ordinary life, just trying to pay more attention to the things I never used to see, feel, or hear ...
I do believe when one really, really wants "something", with every cell of his body, then this his tremendous motivation helps to focus and align the energy, like a laser, and then almost nothing is impossible.
The biggest problem is to get motivated to this level... halfhearted motivation is not enough.
feeling suicidal is horrible been there a few times and i hate it. i am really impressed with what you are doing with yourself fantastic
Dear Mr.Stephenson, Dear Sean...
First of all I'd like to thank you for creating this space and filling it with your positiveness (not sure if that's an actual word...)
I've only seen two of your video messages so far and have read other people's comments.
In a way it seems almost "unfair" that we, the readers, burden you with our day to day problems and pains. But you specifically ask for them and your reasons for doing so are commendable.
So here's my pain.
About three years ago I had the good fortune to meet the man who I felt was my twin soul. It appeared that he felt the same. I'll not go into the details, but after about a year and a half, he decided that I wasn't all he ever wanted and ended our relationship. These things happen, you might say.
Another year and a half later, I still find myself mourning this loss... especially since he has moved on BUT has renewed our (virtual) contact... only to say he too feels he has lost his twin soul when we parted.
Since he is in a relationship "that is acceptable" and doesn't want to hurt his present partner, we find ourselves longing for each other's company and at the same time not wanting to ruin anyone else's life...
I like to think I'm a compassionate person and have no desire to make anyone's life miserable. What's more, it's not my decision to make.
At the same time, I wonder how far should my compassion take me without selling myself short?
Apart from a deepfelt love for this man, I struggle with the question "What is the right thing to do?"
I know, Lost Love must be one of the oldest stories in the world. I'm sure mine is no different from all the others.
I do feel, however, that you don't get that many chances to meet your twin soul. I strongly believe that I've met mine and wonder if I'll ever have the good fortune to meet a second one...
I AM trying to move on, trying to look at this from all points of view, His and Hers as well...
Some days I struggle though...
Thank you for reading this.
Thank you for being who you are: a true inspiration to all of us.
I know exactly how you feel was with the most fantastic woman i ever meet in my life i never had someone love me so much and look out for me like she did unfortunatetly 3 years later shes decided to break up with me. Last time we spoke she said she still loved me but we cant be together because of her family and friends and our past yet i think deep inside she wants to be together well she said it herself i just cant seem to move on and let go because i really think me and her had and have something very special.
Hi Sean,
I would say first that I have a very blessed life, considering what you and the others have in their life.
You have asked for my pain. I do not have anything that is really an intense pain in my life. I have perfect health, am loved greatly, and love greatly, have 3 of the greatest friends, and am generally in great happiness and great spirits. I have frustrations and severe limits in my life though. I will share them.
I have an aspiration to become an ascended being of pure love-light, like an ascended master, where time and space and reality itself are no limitation to me whatsoever. This includes supernatural abilities like shape-shifting, bending space and time, materization of objects, teleportation, materializing and dematerializing my body into any form or shape at will, multilocation, telepathy, remote-viewing, changing reality itself, etc. I would also like to master lucid dreaming. This aspiration means that I am aware of the pure energy creating my body at every instant of space-time and can control its manifestation and interactions with energies manifesting everything else. Of course, I am still not at this level, and it can be frustrating.
I really want the world’s energy problems to be solved. I know of ways this could be accomplished, to eliminate the use of fuel for energy forever, but they require massive amounts of money to accomplish. One idea would take 20 million dollars to accomplish info a form that could be produced in a factory and made available to everyone. The lack of ability to manifest the massive funding is frustrating.
I am a highly creative, inventive, inventor, free-spirit, that does poorly in the corporate world. I am like Thomas Edison, needing frequent naps, where I daydream ideas. The corporations who I have worked for don’t like sleeping on the job. But that IS my way of getting inspiration. This is why I want to develop the ability of lucid dreaming.
I have had mixed success with jobs, sometimes I do extremely well, then I get laid off, and then a very long time happens before I find work again. Right now, I am unemployed, I am extremely, broke and poor, so much so that there is no money for anything except absolute necessities.
It seems to follow my bliss, to be creative, original, free, and I was destined to be extremely “outside the box” this is who I am. But this seems not to be useful for acquiring great wealth and abundance. Every thing I like doing I have trouble convincing anyone that I could provide the solution to their problems. Everywhere I look, they always want someone who has already done what they need. Most of it I have not done already, but I know I could do absolutely if given the opportunity. It seems everyone is scared to death of taking any sort of risk whatsoever.
So getting wealth is a gigantic problem in my life. It’s not necessary for great wealth to happen for myself, I have modest personal needs, but enormous great wealth for really changing the world in ways that would save the human race. That’s what’s frustrating. There are things I could be inventing to really help humanity, but there’s no means to do so.
Thank you very much for your time. I am sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you,
Dena Meier, aspiring ascended being
dear Dena, you know, reading you and the last words, the thing that came to mind aspire to get feet on the blessèd ground and honour it. Then the wings can open and you can jump to fly when it is right, and come down to earth to dance or rest when that is the most sacred thing to do.
blessèd be,
a dancer and singer
Recently laid off from a job I felt truly "called" to get education for...now having hard time finding employment. Went into debt to get the education and fear losing my home. Then there is the issue of love...married for 20 years, now alone. Finding love would be a nice bonus!
I know what you mean if you got friends its not so hard imagine not having your beautiful woman with you and no friends it gets very lonely
I just found your web site so I have never listenened to you or seen you except for the few blogs on this site. You ask "what is your pain"? I am the mother of a stranger abducted child. I have also had to bury 3 babies. I have two children who will not speak to me because their father died of his alcholism. (I'm from the Alaskan bush. The legal belief up there is that the woman is responsible if the man drinks.) I do try to stay very positive but many times my depression get the better of me.
As a friend of mine said to me recently when I was trying to deal with new information from the Missing Childrens Network, that the pain level is like trying to see a complete tree from only 6 inches away from it. The pain does not lessen nor go away.
Please do not tell me that because I have one son who talks to me that that is enough. My anger is still to great.
Fluffy words of encourgment are not what I need but I don't know what I need. Hopefully you or someone else will have the right words. Forever living in hope.
Lin
Hi Sean,
It has been a great journey for me since knowing you as I have downloaded and listened to all your video found on Youtube.
My greatest pain is the limiting belief I have on not believing that I can train Law of Attraction to hundreds of people through my personal experience. When I speak to individual or small group it will makes a difference in some of their lives and most of the time gives them goose bump as well. I aspire to speak to hundreds of people in a seminar soon.
The other greatest pain in my life currently is to be able to provide the financial freedom to my family and to ensure both my child gets their University degree.
Thank-you
Hi Sean. Your video's are inspiring. I am an actor, director and a therapist my self. But, event in the last few months have left me severely wounded emotionally resulting in my inability to bounce back entirely. Money wise i have been void of income for 4 months running into the 5th. I have had no job offers or opportunities, the first in my 12 years of working life.
Emotionally i was crapped out, but i am at a much better place there now.
My question is what can i do, in order to welcome back the energy of finances back into my life ?
Hey Sean, trust you're well.
My biggest heart wrenching pain is in relationships.
My health is GREAT, I do resistance training frequently, eat great (mostly...must say I sometimes eat crap...not literally...but I'm young and can take it!)
Wealth wise, well I'm a 'struggling student'...or I'm 'meant to be.' But I have no concern about money despite that, because I do not have any deep issues about money, and in fact have business plans I expect to go down well, eventually.
Just for more info on the relationships side, I am good at connecting deeply with others. Sometimes perhaps more than I desire, I have a lot of people I have only talked to once who feel like spilling their guts to me (had a call just this morning from someone who wanted to meet up and talk about something). I moved around different countries for most of my life, and lost contact with friends, got annoyed with it (and am now thankful for it).
With the ladies though, I have had deep issues and loads of 'buts.' Used to be good with them, I can remember teasing them all the time when younger, and looking back I notice I had loads who liked me...but I didn't like them. It made no sense to me then, though it does now. But things happened of course, and I held on to them, and held myself back. In fact, I became a raging misogynist. I disliked how everything seemed to change so quickly, I thought they were all insincere blah blah blah.
I have become much better now though. Taken a path perhaps similar to yours. ala David D, yourself and so on. But, could still use some work. So yes. That is my 'achilles heel.'
P.S. I actually JUST got your book in from amazon today. It is great stuff so far, thanks. (Haven't gone too far though, I am a BIG reader, but for the last year have slowed down a bit to actually APPLY it and really know it, rather than just 'think I do')
SEAN
Well Sean that seems like a lot of responsibility to burden you with but here goes.
When you asked, where is my pain, the first thought that came to my mind is my left thum. I cut it the other day tinting some windows. Small world, an atrium actually.
I think you are talking about mental pain. I don't seem to have any at the moment but I'm sure there is something. There use to be.
Several years ago I had problems with a few addictions and bad habits but those problems and habits are behind me and resolved.
I have been semi retired up until recently. As I get closer to publication I seem to be getting more and more committed which is fine. There are so many levels to operate from and I'm not afraid to experience any of them.
My pain these days seems to be more physical than mental. I have arthritis in my right hip which limits the amount of stress I can put on it. I've been very careful not to over do it but it's limiting.
I haven't seen a doctor yet but I will soon. It doesn't hurt unless Im on my feet for a long time. Which I'm not doing. My friend just had a hip procedure and he told me he felt much better. We both were in the racquetball wars and business and he still is.
I don't have financial problems or relationship problems. I'm not a things person. I content sending quiet time by myself. I'm single, married once, with no children and I don't have any relatives, cousins, that I'm interested in being friendly with.
My parents were 40 and 42 years older than me. I'm 62. May 30, 1947. The real Memorial Day. I was an only children as they say. I was adopted when I was one year old. My biological parents were friends of my adopted family.
I am an introvert at heart with an extravert personality. I really do have a lot of good close friends and mentors who I speak to and email constantly. I love to write.
All my mother and father's brothers and sisters are gone, all 20 of them. I'm content but I guess my biggest pain is I miss my kitty, Angel. I have no immediate family at the moment. I am open to a possible change but I'm not looking or dating. I was married once for a short time.
My kitty, The Angel Girl passed away in February 2008. I've been waiting for the right time and I'm finally adopting a kitty. Any day. I must have been a cat in my last life, I love them so much. I'm hoping to have a cat family again. I had eight kitties at one time.
Well that's it Sean. I don't really have any problems just situation which seem to be taking care of themselves. I only see great things happening in my life. I'm grateful every day!
jim
Jim "Makevery" Schatz
Free Throw Mastery
First off, i would like to thank you for letting me write . I have alot of emotional pain and anxiety caused by coworkers. I am a nurse and i am being slandered. A coworker has accused me of using and stealing drugs. I proved myself by taking a drug test and got a lawyer. Now this person has everyone believing that i stole which is not true. She has a group of people chasing me around like they are trying to catch me. I will not quit a job where i am not in the wrong. I am a good hearted person whom wouldn't steal from anyone. I have so much anxiety and emotional pain. I try to deal with it and ignore them but very hard to do when they are messing with my career, my job and trying to make me lose everything i have. I want to have a strong mind and learn to ignore their stupidity with out causing a lot of attention about this. Makes me paranoid to do my job. Not sure how much longer i can take this emotional pain.
Chris that is an awful thing to have happen to you by someone. It is bullying to the max. I too used to let people say what they want or gossip about me when I was working hard and for some reason they resented my dedication to doing the best. I realized I needed to turn around one day and stand up for myself do everything I could to point a judgmental finger at her. If she is busy talking about me is this good for the company? Maybe she is a problem here. Today it is me and who will be next? When I held my head up high and called her on her behavior and then asked others if they thought she should be allowed to attack her co-workers. It is their work place too. This worked and she looked foolish for being such a "B". In your case I get the feeling she may be the drug stealer. Unless she has proof she needs to leave you alone
Hey Sean,
Just want to say that you are an inspiration.
I have really had the challenge the past few years of letting myself live to a lower standard and then self-sabotaging so many times. I struggle with rapport with my unconscious and feel pain that I know I need to release.
I've had challenges in the past with health, relationships, money, family and right now seem to be at the lowest ebb ever. I turned 50 and because I was so ineffective, got dumped by a loving woman who was so security challenged by my results that she didn't feel she had a choice.
I'm broke and just dumped a job that was giving me very low wages and where I had a lot of responsibility--it was designed to fail and rather than leave early, I let it fail.
So I have been working really hard on me and being at cause. Looking for ways to bring my best out because I am talented, strong and capable when motivated and driven by self-worth and personal values of contribution and connection.
I need to get off my but (t) and so appreciate your example.
Thank you,
Jack
Where is my pain? 21 years ago I was diagnosed with MS. I have recently filed for social security disability. As a person that has been self-sufficient and single all my life, now at 55 years old I feel like I'm being trapped (by my body), more and more dependent on others and more and more at the mercy of others. I live in a duplex (that I own) and my tenant does all of the upkeep. Although I feel very blessed, I also feel at her mercy. I know this whole situation is being fueled by my poor self-esteem. When a person has poor self-esteem and they know it and they work on improving it, why does it seem like I never really get control over it? It seems like people and events keep me held down. So now in having to retire prematurely, I am facing financial issues too.
Where do I start. I have spent my whole life looking after people that assumed they were strong and always right but they were really needy. I know that I am the one to take responsibility for doing this but unfortunately I do now know how to put myself first and let everybody else not make too many demands on me.
My character is too soft and I feel, far too giving. But I know that there is nobody in this world to rely on but yourself and Divine Intelligence, The support of the Universe is what we have and that is truly amazing if we believe that we deserve the very best life has to offer.
I keeping learning to let go and live in the present moment because that is all we have. The past is gone and we need to understand that we can make a difference in our own lives if we truly love ourselves.
I know it is not always easy but we have to do the work ourselves and not look to others for our own happiness.
Therefore my pain at the moment is lack of finances, giving too much support financially, an illness I have to deal with and live my life according to my own needs.
I feel exhausted from taking too much responsibility and always having to be strong. I sometimes feel, just stop the world I want to get off. Definitely have never felt suicidal though, just tired.
Rose
Dear Mr.Sean,
many thanks your dharma of sharing to me your inner soul's strengths and your wisdom in this journey, we all are passing through!
I can see you [physical body] and understanding more of you [ soul ] just today 4th.October,2009,to had the opportunity of meting you ,through inner mind email I received today.
My PAIN, not been able to give the best to my family yet, and I have already crossed 60+.
My source of pain for me is I have created my life without a intimate partner. I am 52 was once married 17yrs. ago these last 12yrs I have been alone as a single parent. The foundation I would like to build my relationship on is friendship, integrity, committment, authentic,spiritual, family oriented, and someone I can positively communicate with and give him his space when he needs it. Finances I would like to live off 80% of my income so that I could save more. However with inflation and the economic climate as it is I don't see the possibilty of making that happen.
As for my bucket list:
My greatest desire is to travel to Peru climb the Machu Pichu mtns., visit Tanzania, Madagascar and the Himalayans. Take a Hot air ballon ride through the Grand Canyons. Have lunch below the Eiffel towers. Spend a week in Itlay in their natural spa and have all kinds of pampering things I don't evn know that will be heavenly when experienced.
wow single for 12 years i am guessing you had friends or family around you to help with the loneliness
Hey Sean,
I am in a lot of distress at the moment. I have been told that I cannot go where I want to go for University because of financial reasons, even though I can get into the best colleges in the world. I feel like all my dreams have shattered completely. I tried my best to get what I wanted. I just do not get that every great teacher says that you can get anything you want then why do we not get what we want? I mean what if for the greater good we have to sacrifice our dreams?? I still do not get this karma thing versus law of attraction... I do not even have any proper relationships... my relation with my dad sucks! And I have tried soo hard to undo it, but have received very little results. I do not know how on earth I can overcome these issues that surround me each day! I am kind of exhausted... I might sound pathetic to you, but at the moment I really do. I do not see what good lies in me going to a place where I do not want to. Is this God's decision? Please help me out!!
my biggest source of pain is being afraid to love. Even though I was married for 30+ years, he never said "love me" , and growing up , I never heard it. Now, when someone tells me they love me, I want to run! We all need to be loved, but I just dont want to be hurt again and again.I need good advise , my time is running out.
Atm that seems like a big issue for me aswell after being with a girl for 3 years and 3 months i feel so alone without her. Now evertime i try and meet a new person i fear the same thing is going to happen you fall in love get to the honey moon stage as they call in then a few months later you get dumped again and have to deal with the HUGE depresions of losing a great loving person or losing what might of been your soul mate this keeps happening and its too painful to keep doing it over and over again
My biggest source of pain is my weight. I've tried so many things to help over the last 13 years. I have finally figured out that my weight issue is emotional with a physical consequence. My biggest problem now is I am so unmotivated. I have been so dissappointed because of no results in the past that I can't find it in myself to be passionate about anything to help my situation.
I used to hate my weight about 2 years ego somehow getting a new job that required alot of moving around as helped me lose tons of weight done this job for 2 years now along with some exercise and a little smart eating and i managed to lose all the weigh and would you belive it that now i am too skinny and am now trying to put some of it back on.
My greatest source of pain is that, after being married for 19+ years, my wife stll loves me because she "needs" me..............instead of needing me because she loves me. From reading a number of your comments on relationships and the importance of truthful communication, I know that you know exactly what I'm saying.
Tnx for listening Sean,
Dave
That must be a horrible feeling i would be very depressed if i was with someone who just stays with me because they need my financial security or something like that.
Dear V,
Sorry to hear of your pain. Life can be very difficult.
I think we usually make the mistake of trying to solve a problem from the point of view that we are right. If we experiment at trying to resolve an issue from another's perspective, a situation can often become clearer.
I feel that we all hold memories of guilt from previous lives and that we are here to try to make amends.
It might make a difference if you try to face the idea that you may have been guilty, then be kind to yourself, as you would be kind to another, and forgive yourself.
An idea might be to go through one day trying to let these negative thoughts flow through you.
Try to spend a day being as empty headed as is possible. Pretend you have an empty head and heart.
You may find yourself having a personal 'spring clean'.
You've tried all the regular therapies. You have nothing to lose with this one.
Good Luck and Best Wishes.
I was going to write the same thing as V. But he said it word for word. Completely defeated.
Time- It eludes me. I've had 10+ years pass me by with no real change or progression in my life. I have things I want to do, but the small steps I take to make time for things don't seem to amount to anything.
Love-Back to Time, again. Hubby and I have a hard time getting 'us' time away from our babies and his work or hobbies. Connection seldom happens and the loneliness is overwhelming. Trying the Love Dare book, but he has a hard time making time for that too. makes me feel like I'm not worth making time FOR.
Money plays a factor here too.
Money- Being a SAHM for most of the last 18 years, I've come to hate the prospect of working for anyone else. I did, in some part time jobs, and the stress was overwhelming to me to the detriment of my health. I'm better off working for myself, but my marketing skills to promote my own talents is severely lacking any oomph to bring me any customers.
Self-worth- Hesitant to market myself. Afraid of criticism. Afraid to say, 'See this! This is what I do!' Don't feel competent in my talents. Knowledgeable in many things, master of nothing.
There's more, but I figure that's enough to start with.
Hi Sean. Right now I feel I have so much going on that I don't know where to start. My health is generally good although lately I'm dealing with higher than normal blood pressure which I believe it due to stress and anxiety. This brings me to my biggest source of pain.
I've been having sever anxiety in the last couple of weeks over work. My job has changed within the company I work at I just feel like I'm a new employee even though I've been there over 22 years.
Part of the problem is getting motivated to do the work. I just don't have the motivation. I'm not doing what I love which is working on the internet, building websites and internet marketing. I do that part time and makes me some decent money but I want to do that full time. However, it's not what you would call a "stable" job and with a family, I don't feel I can just leave my day job.
I do feel my dream can and will come to pass as I've held on to it for quite some time, but in the meantime, my main source of pain is anxiety over working at a place that has lost it's interest to me. It's not a hard job, but I need to find a way to get motivated and enjoy it while I'm still there.
That's my rant for now.
Cheers!
Dear A
As you say, you are in a terrible, serious depression where (it seems to me) you have lost a sense of who you are, and what you mean to yourself, not only other people.
It may be you are clinically depressed......maybe you might wish to try (unless you have already......if you have, you must seek help as you are clearly in need of help....and you are important enough to demand it)) a course of anti-depressants.
No, I cannot promise they´ll work anf give you automatic happiness...thats not the way they work.........but they may well give you enough of a sense of "youness" which may help you return to yourself in some way so you can continue your struggle from a safer place.
Constantly fighting with THE SAME, re-appearing, self-sabbotaging thoughts, limiting beliefs, insecurities and endless, abyssal depression.
I've been doing therapy for over 2 years now, no improvement whatsoever: only brief periods of unstable ups and long periods of sorrow and bitter, infinite loneliness. I feel unappreciated and unimportant. I feel like I don't matter to anyone. I feel like everyone avoids me in all the areas that are important to me: love, social relationships, my passions, etc. I don't think anyone would ever like to have to do with what I have to offer.
Point is, after all this years of trying all kinds of approaches, therapies, ideas or perceptions about life, I don't think I'll ever be able to change it. I now feel finally and completely defeated.
Sometimes I think about death as the biggest relief that could happen to me.
Dear V. Move. Dance, no matter how you feel, a good stretching move to beautiful music dance, not the trancing blasting out of one's own hearing I don't wanna feel myself stuff. Get into the woods, a field, near a lake, the sea and breathe and listen, walk. Sing, whatever, no matter and breathe to do it. Find simple things to help those who can do less than you fell you can now. Yes, death can be a blessing, but only when it's time to rest, not before we have danced enough..Yes, it is tempting at such moments, I know well..what if, instead, you do a beautiful ceremony of death of your depression, whatever else may come of it. Honour it, your rage (I've always heard that depression IS rage unsaid) and the life in it, and whatever you need to be heard, and then give it back to the earth, who can transform all energy back into a next useful life and thank her for receiving it.
Good walking to you, sweet and intensest dancing. Singing Wagner is great! blessèd be, an olde warrior turned creatrix, a singer, survivor still of many stories. Take heart.
I feel like i have been trying for a very long time to change my life but without any success so far which really gets my depressed. i too feel like i have infinite loneliness since i broke up with my girl and i dont really have any friends to hang out with often times i feel unappreciated and unimportant because i dont feel love from anyone I feel like I am not important to anyone or if i am its only for a sort period of time often times during confersations I feel like everyone avoids me and my passions at least you feel like you have something to offer i dont.
I too look at death as the biggest relief the best way to get out but somtimes life just seems to beautiful to give up on
Hey Mr. Stephenson!
My source of pain:
Health - All good!
Wealth - Currently struggling financially! I have been offered a job (well many jobs) teaching English again over in Thailand. Problem is I don't have enough to get out there and the new semester is about to start. There are no decent jobs going in local area either.
Tried loans but it's a bit of a catch 22. You need to have good credit rating to get a loan and to get a good credit rating you need to have had a loan or credit card successfully paid off.
Love - This is the big ouch. Partially my fault for being a naive idiot. My girlfriend had gone overseas to America to study. Our relationship ended 2 months ago when she told me via text that she had cheated on me...for a quite a few months. Anyway I was naive for trusting her and not listening to some of my friends who foresaw, 2 years ago, the relationship would end in such a shitty manner. She was my first love and girlfriend so the odds were stacked against me
Still it was my lesson to learn and I am glad I have had this experience. I can not get my ex out of my head. It's really annoying.
I figure if I can sort my finances it will enable me to travel again then I will meet new women along the way who will provide me with even more positivity to move on. Then I will be able to drag my ass out of this rut.
I look forward to your words of wisdom Sir.
Me
i also i am struggling very much financially and live in a small ugly dirty flat with 2 other family members my ex of 3 years and 3 months also split up with me a few months ego and i just cant get her out of my head which causes alot of depresion