I am fascinated by space, the incredible depth of the universe, and above all... black holes.
Metaphorically speaking, we all have emotional black holes in our lives: family members, lovers, friends, jobs, projects, places and habits that continue to take and never give. We all know people who are constantly taking, and never giving back. They absorb our time, our energy, our money, love, affection and praise and never put it back into us.
We need to ask ourselves two questions. First, Who/What/Where are the black holes in my life? Once you become aware that they exist it's much easier to not be sucked in, so to speak 
. The next question we need to ask is are YOU being an emotional black hole to others in your life? And if the answer is yes, it's perfectly okay - just remember, awareness precedes change. 
Be well,
Sean
Sean, great wisdom once again thank you. But it is really very difficult if your children who are now grown adults are your black holes, you cannot just walk away from them! You still love them dearly and they will always be my children until I leave this planet. I guess some black holes you cannot discard all together but you can limit the time you spend with them.
Hi there Sean,
I think we've connected before,but I sabotaged it.I'm becoming more aware...do you think it's too late-I want a second chance to make a good impression?You definately do rock!
---Kelli
Hi Sean,
I got to you from Finer Minds. I related to the black hole. I have known this for sometime. It is my youngest son. He already had a mental illness. But since he used street drugs he also has the diagnosis of Organic Brain Disorder Drug Induced. He is only 29 years and a good looking young man. Tomorrow we see a new psychiatrist and hopeful he can help him with some more medication. I am trying to get him to a place where he can live and I can feel secure knowing he is going to be okay. He has been in room and boards, board and cares. Now he lives in an apartment by himself but I need to check on him weekly. He is exactly what you described. I am waiting for the right time to get him in a living condition where i don't have to worry about him. Because there are also issues in this facilities when someone is not treated right. Thank you for your truth.
Cheryl
Thank you Sean
A great way to share you message
Sean, you are a visionary leader! Thank you!
Sean,
You are absolutely the man in every way. I'm very curious to know your thoughts on the law of attraction. In particular, when things come into our lives, wanted or unwanted, we spend weeks or months in positive or negative mindsets prior to it occurring, at least that is my view. I'd love to hear your opinion on it. You are an inspiration to me.
Thanks
Paul
Hello Sean! You found good words"black hole" for negative energies. I like to keep away from this people.
How to deal with them? Ihave to learn how to recieve not give only. Ihave not to have enough friends and I
fell myself lonely sometime. Sean thank you for your video blok Take care. Rita Piskun
I'm disappointed that there weren't more options available other than to distance yourself. I've come across many many emotional vampires or black holes. It is such a common occurance that there are now at least two new slang words to describe them. That's a large amount of the population that we should just turn our back on. Where's the help for this problem other than "Stop doing that or I'll leave you!"?
We are all communal creatures who depend upon each other for survival. Chances are at some point, we are all going to feel needy and selfish in some way (my definition of a black hole). Is that when our loved ones should turn their back on us? Am I hopeless or a waste of time, in your opinion, because my emotions do not turn off when the egg timer rings?
Hi Sean,
Thank you for your video. When it comes to my life, I am more of a giver than receiver. There are people who act like back holes, but I ignore them. I do notice I spend more time than necessary in pursuit of money, but I am a freelancer, so I need to constantly promote myself everyday.
Thank You once again Sean for your honesty and for being such a giving person.
This is only the 2nd video of yours that I have watched, but your words never cease to touch me.
I've had this problem in my family - there is a huge black hole. I think my whole family is beyond conciliation and perhaps all of us are in that mode of 'learned helplessness'. Giving up.
I always felt guilty for leaving people/family behind when they were 'black holes', I always felt guilty for not staying, not spending more time with them, not given EVEN MORE than I already had (that being hours of time, effort...). But hearing this video makes me feel that it's ok to live my own life and to want something back for myself. I always thought I shouldn't spend less time with my family, that it was wrong of me.
I am a proponent of giving and continuously giving - thereby promoting more giving from others. But sometimes, you've just got to put your foot down!
Thanks for validating these important things to me. I LOVE your blog Sean!!
-Renee.
Sean,
I think this is your best blog!!!! You have sighted something many of us overlooked. Please continue in this direction of black holes. What actually caused them and why? Looking forward to your next blog on this topic.
I also sense I am living - married - to a person who has no compassion or remorse. Is that a black hole?
With the best of regards,
Diane F Garhart
Hi Sean: Thanks for the smarts. How great a thinker you are. Love the black hole and what it represents. Blessings Dote
This is the most helpfull video blog. This one touches the true base of what most of us all deal with, especially those of us who are givers. I will say this it is about setting boundaries with people of such . It can be a very hard thing to do if you love that person. Seems you have to stay on your toes being aware of them before you are drained mentally , emo and phyiscally. Perhaps your love for that person stems from you not feeling worthy of love & recieveing love & help yourself , which now again returns you back to your responsability for alowing this (takers)in your own life.Most people dont know how to give & some give to much , I am definetly the latter one of them . I give & love like there is no tomorow & sometimes feel that if i dont learn to recieve there will be no tomorow. I am a woman that so far my past relationships have all been what I call vampires. I have now learned & it was the hard way .In my life now I am still singel & working on learning how to recieve ¬ always being the giver only . It is a constant work in progress,your video blogs help me alot please keep making more and more, you are a blessing .. Thank you Sean, Much Love , Vivian
Excellent metaphor, and great advice. Thank you.
I work with my father in law. He's a very negative person. He can be very depressing and 'exhausting'. He can simply 'TALK the energy right out of me...'
I know that I have to do everything within my power to keep away from him as much as possible. I use this as a motivator to be productive in pursuing my financial goals - so I'll be able to afford leaving this job. In the meantime I do my best not to to let him influence me too much.